In honour of International Women’s Day, I want to write about a place that is very special to me: the locker room. More specifically, the women’s locker room. As a swimmer, I’ve spent hundreds of hours in these spaces over the years. A lot of my learning and formation as a woman has happened there. …
We all have people in our lives who touched us at a moment when we really needed it. Someone who asked a question that shifted things. Someone who just listened, or bought us a ticket when we needed to be somewhere else. Someone who told us we were good at something, or gave us solace …
The holiday season is ramping up. No matter one’s religious or family affiliations it is usually a busy time of the year. There can be a lot of excitement and expectation (good and not so good), noise, pressure, activity and sometimes anxiety and sadness. More of my clients have been struggling with being connected to …
Some people know that September 11 is my birthday. Fewer know how that day in 2001 changed my life. Back then, I was very unhappy in my government job. The work itself was interesting and useful, but my boss was demeaning, disorganized, and dismissive. He surveilled us, was verbally abusive and he mismanaged the work …
A client of mine was talking about affirmations and had learned that some indigenous cultures consider affirmations “word medicine”. Culturally “medicine” can refer to a much broader range of substances and practices than can be found in a commercial pharmacy. It got me thinking about what we use to keep us well and healthy and …
I just returned from a month in Europe. I stayed mostly in one big city, taking time to really sink into this very different place. It was a wonderful experience—of course. Great weather, beautiful old buildings and scenery, amazing wine, new foods to try, and local grocery stores to peruse. I even read a couple …
I saw my late mom’s swim friend, V., at the pool yesterday. There is something sweet about her recognizing me as “Esther’s daughter”. Nobody else in Toronto would know me that way. V. is 80. She is bent over and uses a walker. Her spine is visibly twisted. She has had at least one hip …
It is a cold February in Ontario, and two holidays that are supposed to warm our hearts this month are Valentine’s Day and Family Day. Juxtaposing these two holidays has got me thinking a lot about how we think about love, relationships and connection. Valentine’s Day has become an increasingly commercial celebration of coupledom and …
“Good enough” is a gift I offer you this holiday season. I invite you to accept it, embrace it and use it – now and throughout the rest of the year. When you really get comfortable with it – good enough is amazing and freeing. Perfection only really exists in the most special and exquisite …
With so many awful world events happening, it is easy to get caught up in negativity. The news highlights all the bad stuff, and can be overwhelming. “Doomscrolling” has become part of our vocabulary. It takes effort to resist taking in the doom and tragedy…but there is also good news out there! You may need to …